Folks, get set it’s the different types of human behavior:

Asshole Mode. This is basically Pfft! indifference to some other guy’s take and here’s mine. May or may not involve enjoyment at others’ discomfiture, or satisfaction in dominance displays (hard requirement: the others’ deference or submission).
Starfish Aim. “It matters to this one, so it matters.” One-to-one engagement in a recognition of the other’s worth, no less than yours, at least in this moment: to serve someone else’s purpose for fucking once, where there’s need…